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Jan. 21st, 2004 04:24 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rebelraisingI thought I should really just post to note that just as I sat down to plan our consultation on the Sexual Health Strategy, look what came on my random playlist!
Hmm. So I'm trying to devise a questionnaire about where queer women get their information and advice from. And it occurs to me that there are several such women on my friends list. So: tell me.
Where did you get your sex education about sex between women?
What do you think "safer sex" means, between women?
Where do/ would you go for help with a sexual health problem?
Where do/ would you go for relationship advice?
Who do you talk to about sex and sexual health?
And, in an ideal world, how would you have answered those questions?
And, just as an injoke for those of us who've spent days reading this document: would you use a dental dam if you were in prison, but not otherwise?
I do actually want to know, by the way - both because I'm interested generally in other people's experiences, and because I need to put some shape to this consultation I'm planning. So: talk about sex! Now!
Hmm. So I'm trying to devise a questionnaire about where queer women get their information and advice from. And it occurs to me that there are several such women on my friends list. So: tell me.
Where did you get your sex education about sex between women?
What do you think "safer sex" means, between women?
Where do/ would you go for help with a sexual health problem?
Where do/ would you go for relationship advice?
Who do you talk to about sex and sexual health?
And, in an ideal world, how would you have answered those questions?
And, just as an injoke for those of us who've spent days reading this document: would you use a dental dam if you were in prison, but not otherwise?
I do actually want to know, by the way - both because I'm interested generally in other people's experiences, and because I need to put some shape to this consultation I'm planning. So: talk about sex! Now!
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Date: 2004-01-21 09:26 am (UTC)1. On safe sex: From my friends and my ex-girlfriend - after I'd slept with her. Most of my friends were involved in university welfare type things or HIV awareness education. And, having learnt everything I know off my mates, I seem to be better informed than any nurse or doctor that I've ever spoken to. Isn't that appalling?
2. On the mechanics and What Is It Lesbians Actually Do, Anyway: I knew about the oral sex, and the rest ... kind of just came naturally. Surprisingly so. *sly grin*
What do you think "safer sex" means, between women?
Er - probably just using dental dams for oral sex unless you're in a monogamous relationship. Or clingfilm, but only non-microwaveable clingfilm because microwaveable clingfilm is porous to let steam escape, and the holes are big enough for the HIV virus to pass through. And it's important to get tested if you're monogamous and to use barriers if you're not because, dude, you can get gonorrhea in your throat. (Quoting the ex-girlfriend here: for some reason, that sentence stuck with me. Ewwww.)
And I've heard vague rumours about using gloves for digital/genital contact, but, um, no, I wouldn't. Also, I've only ever once seen dental dams being given out free after a club.
What I always find odd is that there aren't many things that gay women can do that are exclusive to gay women, but I've never heard anyone recommending that straight couple use dental dams for cunnilingus or gloves for digital/genital contact. That's kind of odd.
Where do/ would you go for help with a sexual health problem?
Local urino-genital clinic. Nice nurses, mainly female doctors, and they've seen and heard it all before. And I know where it is, too!
Where do/ would you go for relationship advice?
I tend not to. Probably LJ, at a push. In terms of relationship or pre-marriage counselling for the two of you, if it were with my ex-girlfriend I think we'd look for a friendly rabbi who wasn't scared of lesbians.
Who do you talk to about sex and sexual health?
LJ people and a few RL friends. But it's so not an issue at the moment!
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Date: 2004-01-21 09:36 am (UTC)Also, I have never seen dental dams for sale, anywhere. And that's including having got behind the curtain in Libertas. I do actually know where i could go to get dental dams at the moment, but only because I'm on a university campus and tons of my friends are/were involved in university welfare services, so dental dam jokes are pretty commonplace. Unlike condoms, though, they're not actually given out in first year packs or anything. (The university LGB society gives out a pack which includes an extra-strong condom. Cue all the girls: Well, gee, that's going to come in useful!)
Off the university campus, I don't have the first clue where I should go. Stock up on the non-microwaveable clingfilm!